Ok i looked at UK.Intels work and kinda copied what he did ( His is an Aero frame , but mine is a solid non Aero frame , added some inner stroke to the frame and it looks very similar but i cant work out about the outer glow ? I have looked at the Windows and Caption Buttons > Aero > Dwm Window > Frames and the rest of that section and i cant really see anything. I tried to mess about with the drop shadow as well.
Happy with the result , just be cool to find the glow.